The update is late, I would like to apologize to everyone, and tell you about Doudou's situatio

The updates have been getting later and later these days, I'm really sorry.

I have told you before that you have to take your children to institutions for intervention during the day, and only have time to code at night.

Maybe it’s because I spend a lot of time with him recently, so Doudou is particularly attached to me during this time. He always comes to my place and yells at me non-stop, and then wants to play musical chairs with me.

He likes to imitate others. When he watches me typing while sitting on a chair, he will imitate me and use his fingers to press randomly on my keyboard. As a result, my writing state is always interrupted and the efficiency is very low until He only had time to type when he fell asleep, and as a result, the time dragged on later and later every day. (crying with laughter)

Let’s talk about Doudou’s situation!

Doudou has made great progress in the past month. He has good control over his emotions. He cries less and talks more.

When I took him to an intervention class and took the subway, he was very scared. He had to be hugged on the way to the subway station, and he had to cover his ears after getting on the subway. He was very afraid of the sound when the subway was running.

He has to be hugged when he gets off the subway station, and he cries all the time when he gets to the intervention institution. His parents must sit with him in the classroom, otherwise he will feel very insecure. Basically, he will have to look back to see where his parents are after playing for a few minutes.

When we went there for the first time, we were not inside. He was crying and making trouble and wanted to go out to find us, but the door handle of the institution was very high and he couldn't reach it. So he stood at the door and cried for a long time. No matter how much the teachers inside tried to coax him, he couldn't. good.

Later, after his mother and I went in, he cried with tears in his eyes, holding our hands and shouting "Go home, go home!"

The shouting made people feel very uncomfortable, feeling guilty and remorseful.

Since then, we have kept one person in the classroom to make him feel safe.

Fortunately, it gradually improved. During this period of time, if no one was left in the classroom, he could get along alone with the teachers in the institution.

And now he is willing to leave when taking the subway, but sometimes he may still be afraid of the security gates and turnstiles of the subway.

In the past, Doudou was a very picky eater. Every time he ate, it was a constant problem. He would not eat rice or green vegetables. He would only eat foods with strong flavors, such as sour cowpeas, cold vegetables, pickled mustard and the like in hot dry noodles. food.

And I was very picky about snacks. I didn’t even look at many snacks. Every day before going to bed at noon, I was rewarded with a candy. Later it became two, and then it became three. If I didn’t give it, I would cry, and I would cry and cry.

During that time, he lost weight very quickly because he almost lived on snacks every day.

After spending this time with his mother, I slowly corrected his eating habits.

At the beginning, there was a little bit of rice on the food, and it was stuffed into his mouth when he wasn't paying attention. Once he was discovered, he would spit it out.

Later, he gradually started to eat more, and although he would still refuse to be fed rice directly, if a small spoonful of rice contained his favorite vegetables, he would be able to eat the vegetables and rice together.

And I have basically given up snacks, and the bad habit of having to eat snacks during lunch breaks has been eliminated.

There is still a problem with delayed gratification. He cannot wait. If what he wants is not given to him immediately, he will become anxious and cry.

We are slowly adjusting this and learning from the teachers at the institution.

In general, the progress in this month is not small. Parents spend more time and energy to accompany their children, coupled with institutional intervention, it is indeed effective.

The main difficulties now lie in two aspects:

First, I can’t find a suitable playmate.

My aunt's family came from Yichang to visit us on weekends. Doudou didn't play with my cousin's children at first.

But when he sees an older child playing with something, he will also become interested and imitate it.

And I found that he really likes crowds of people and the excitement.

He will be very happy in an environment with many people and learn things quickly.

When he first met my aunt, I taught him to call her aunt, and he remembered it immediately. The next day, he ran over and called me aunt with a smile on his face. This was something that had never happened before.

This proves that he still needs to contact more people and play with other children.

However, most of the children in our community who are about the same age as Doudou go to kindergarten, and the parents of those children are not willing to play with him. He ignores people, does not look at people, and may hurt others. The other parent It's normal to have this concern.

The second is that the financial pressure is a bit high. We signed up for the intervention course of the institution for three months and spent more than 48,000 yuan, an average of 16,000 yuan a month.

We are renting a house now, and we are still paying off the loan for the wedding house we bought when we got married. The monthly mortgage and rent plus Doudou’s medical expenses, plus miscellaneous expenses, add up to more than 23,000 yuan, which is stressful. It's really not small.

After his mother resigned, I was the only breadwinner in the family, but the income from writing books was extremely unstable, which made me a little anxious.

Fortunately, I have made a little money at other stations in the past few years. At the current consumption rate, I can probably last until April next year.

At that time, you have to consider selling the house. This house was sold at a high level in 2017, but now it has fallen sharply. If you don’t live in it for one day, you will lose hundreds of thousands...

I don’t know if I can sell it yet…

I hope Doudou will get better soon!