Chapter 341 Family Trivia

With her elder brothers and husband away, Lu Songli consciously took on the responsibility of being a parent.

Lu Songli greeted her fourth sister-in-law, Mrs. Su, before starting to deal with the matter.

The cause of the matter is very simple. Third uncle Qin Zhao asked someone to send back some toys, and her mother-in-law casually gave them to her three daughters-in-law, asking them to share them with their children.

Her fourth sister-in-law took two toys. After the children came to school, she casually gave the older one to Qin Dan and the younger one to Qin Bin.

When they broke up, Qin Bin wanted the older one, but her fourth sister-in-law refused because he was an older brother and wanted to give up his younger brother.

Later, the children played together, and soon the two brothers started fighting.

Her fourth sister-in-law was very angry. After pulling the two away, she lectured the older Qin Bin, saying that he was ignorant and so on.

Qin Bin couldn't help but talked back, saying that she was partial, which made her cry with anger.

At this time, Qin Jia came to her and said secretly, "Aunt Six, don't scold the fourth cousin. In fact, outside, the fourth cousin is very protective of the seventh cousin. But every time the seventh cousin is injured, the fourth aunt will always scold him." Cousin, he said he didn’t protect his seventh cousin well.”

"Okay, Aunt Six knows. You can go back to your room."

Lu Songli thought for a while and knocked on Qin Bin's door first.

Now the Qin family occupies three rows of bungalows, and the children also have their own rooms.

A young but alert voice came from inside, "Who?"

Lu Songli was funny, this child was quite vigilant, "Your sixth aunt."

There was silence in the room.

She wasn't in a hurry either.

After a while, there was a rustling sound in the room, and soon the door was slowly opened, and a little head poked out.

Qin Bin was relieved to see that his sixth aunt was really the only one outside.

"Aunt Six, come in."

Lu Songli noticed that his eyes were red.

After Qin Bin returned to the house, he sat on a chair and read a book.

After Lu Songli chose a seat and sat down, she waved to him, "Come, talk to Aunt Six."

"Sixth Aunt, I haven't finished memorizing the book that Master asked me to memorize."

"Okay, I'm not here to scold you. There's no need to be so defensive about me. By the way, has Aunt Six scolded you?"

Qin Bin thought for a while and shook his head. Aunt Six had never scolded anyone before.

So, Qin Bin walked over slowly.

"Did you fight with your brother today?"

"Yes." Qin Bin replied in a low voice, with a look of obvious resistance on his face.

Lu Songli asked him, "Did you win? Or did you lose? After the fight, were you happy?"

Qin Bin lowered his head. In fact, after the beating, he felt heavy in his heart.

"I think what you did was quite stupid."

Qin Bin was stunned. Aunt Six said he was stupid, didn't she mean he was wrong?

"You are older than Qin Dan. If you win, it is called victory without force. If you lose, I will ask you if you are embarrassed?"

Lu Songli did not judge him from the perspective of right or wrong, but considered the issue from his perspective. Qin Bin's guard was suddenly lowered, and he thought about her words seriously. Was this really the case?

"My brother is so irritating. He knows that I like that wooden horse that can move, and he keeps beating it. He doesn't cherish it at all." He said a few words to him. Later, in order to make him angry, his brother even killed the wooden horse directly. He threw it hard on the ground and hit his brother because he couldn't bear it anymore.

"What's the purpose of your fight?"

Qin Bin hesitated.

Lu Songli understood. She just felt that his mother was partial and treated her younger brother better than him.

"After this fight, did you get what you wanted?"

Qin Binxin said, no.

"After the beating, you said some words that made your mother cry. Knowing that your mother is sad, won't you be sad?"

Qin Bin: He will.

"So, if we say these angry words, besides hurting others and ourselves, we have not achieved our goal, right?"

Qin Bin nodded, then he hesitated and humbly asked, "Aunt Six, what should I do?"

"Your current attitude and behavior are very good. As children, it is normal for you to desire the attention, affirmation and love of your parents and elders."

"Between relatives, if we have any requests, we can speak out directly, or use some methods to achieve our goals tactfully. It's okay. If you have a way, use your own way. If you don't have a way, just use it. The weak's attitude is to hit the ball straight." As the saying goes, sincerity is always the last resort, and a child who can cry will be fed.

"Aunt Six, what does hitting a straight ball mean?"

"Just express your feelings directly. For example, for today's matter, you can directly tell your mother that you like the moving wooden horse very much. If possible, ask her to give it to you. Or discuss it with your brother. , give him anything in exchange, instead of saying nothing and holding back your worries. "

"Also, Aunt Six also knows that you took your brother out to play, and then he was injured and you were scolded by your mother. I will tell your mother later. Aunt Six knows that your brother is injured, and you have done your best. Six Auntie also knows that it is not your obligation to take care of your younger brother. If you are willing to take care of your younger brother, that is your responsibility as an older brother, and you have done a great job. "

Qin Bin cried and nodded, indicating that he understood.

Qin Bin cried for a long time, crying out all the grievances and sadness in his heart.

Lu Songli was quietly on the side, occasionally handing him a handkerchief.

Lu Songli didn't blame the child as soon as he came up, saying that he was wrong about this and that, and then made his mother sad or something like that. Everything has a cause and effect, and it may be an adult's behavior that unintentionally hurts the child.

They are all human beings for the first time, and they are all flesh and blood. They will feel pain when they are hurt. Parents should really not be superior to others and put themselves above their children.

When Qin Bin stopped crying, he felt very embarrassed.

Lu Songli knew that he had solved the problem, so she also made a request to him, "Promise Aunt Six that when you are angry, try to say less bad words. Aunt Six is ​​not afraid that your words will hurt others, but that you will regret it when you calm down."

They have all been children. In fact, because children are growing up, their hormones are not so balanced, and their control over emotions fluctuates. But Lu Songli still hopes that he can try his best to control it.

"Okay." Qin Bin agreed.

Lu Songli knew that this child was trustworthy and would try his best to do it once he agreed. "Then let's talk about this?"

"Well, Aunt Six, are you tired? Go back and rest quickly."

"Then Aunt Six will leave, don't forget to recite."

Qin Bin: ...That's just his excuse.

After leaving Qin Bin, Lu Songli went to find her fourth sister-in-law and told her that Qin Bin was fine.

"Sixth sister-in-law, thank you, I really trouble you." Su Jing was embarrassed.

She and her second sister-in-law knew that the sixth sister-in-law worked in the county governor's office, which was a secret in the Qin family. At the same time, she was also very busy, and her mother-in-law and they tried not to bother her with trivial matters at home.

"Fourth sister-in-law, we are a family, there is no need to be so formal." Lu Songli found that Qin Dan had fallen asleep on her fourth sister-in-law's couch.

"Fourth sister-in-law, in fact, when the children fight, we, as elders, have the greatest responsibility."

Su Jing smiled bitterly, "I know, Bin'er said I am partial, but I really didn't think about which child to favor." She only has two sons.

Lu Songli did not comment on this. Now, judging by deeds rather than hearts, her fourth sister-in-law does not want to be partial, but in fact, her words and deeds are indeed partial to the younger one.

"Fourth sister-in-law, I know, I understand. For example, when the two brothers went out before, Xiao Dan was injured, you couldn't help but scold Xiao Bin, saying that he didn't protect his brother well. I know that Fourth sister-in-law was worried about Xiao Dan, and said it in a hurry. But your words are very hurtful."

"You should know that it is not Xiao Bin's obligation to take care of his brother. He is willing to take care of his brother. That is his responsibility as a brother, and he has done a great job. We can't throw our responsibilities to a child and then blame him for not doing well. This is a bit too much. If you think about it from his perspective, will you feel wronged in your heart?"

Su Jing lowered her head in shame, "Sixth brother's sister-in-law, I did make a mistake in this matter. I will try to change it in the future."

This time the problem was solved, but Su Jing was still worried. A boy of seven or eight years old is the age when cats hate dogs. She is worried that if there is a fight, there will be two.

Lu Songli heard the source of her worry, thought for a while and said, "Fourth sister-in-law, in fact, you want them to unite, there is a way."

I heard from Qin Sheng that Qin Dan looks very much like the dead fourth brother. The fourth sister-in-law's partiality should be unconscious. To correct this unconsciousness, it is not enough to just point it out. Another method must be used.

Su Jing asked hurriedly, "What method?"

She knew that the sixth sister-in-law was resourceful. It would be great if she could give her an idea.

"Artificially create a common enemy for them and let them unite against the outside world." If Qin Ming was still alive, it would be best for him, the father, to play this role.

Su Jing seemed to understand, "Sixth sister-in-law, tell me in detail?"

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