Chapter 438 Conflict
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Lu Feng Shi De Bai Gong Zhu
That is to say, it is best to educate them when they are still young and ignorant about everything.
And the most important thing is that it's easy to coax at this time, even though they can be difficult sometimes, but fortunately everyone has a way?
After all, there is still an age gap between adults and children, and dealing with them is not a piece of cake.
Although it is really difficult to take care of children nowadays, in any case, for these children in the family, it is better than the children of other families.
And because the elders in the family, even if they make mistakes, sometimes criticize them, they will accept it humbly instead of rolling around on the ground.
In this regard, they are better than the children next door. The family has never accommodated them excessively just because they are only children.
On the contrary, everyone will correct them in time when they find that they have bad habits or problems.
Just like I said just now, why dads sometimes have a straight face is not because they made mistakes. As long as they don't make mistakes, it won't be the same.
But sometimes, they also feel that there are many elders in the family and they are all their relatives, so they will play rogue and try to avoid punishment. However, it often doesn't work at this time. On the contrary, punishing them will be heavier than admitting their mistakes in time.
It also led them to know that their elders are their elders. No matter how good they are at ordinary times, after they make mistakes, everyone will be the same and will not stand up for them.
As for leaving the children directly to the aunt at home, this is impossible. Unless there is something special at home, just like yesterday, they will be handed over to the aunt.
Basically, there will be elders at home playing with them. Even if the old man or the old lady cannot keep up with their physical strength, they will still be there to accompany them.
Instead of leaving them completely to the aunt.After all, no matter how hard the aunt works, it is not as good as having relatives around her.
What's more, the aunt is worried that they will bump into each other and be scolded by the master.
But I don’t know how to do it. When they first learned to crawl, bumping into them was a common thing. As long as they didn’t attack them artificially, anything was fine.
A child!They have to be beaten and beaten since childhood to grow up. It is impossible to care for them like flowers in a flower house.
That's not love, that's harming them, let alone the education of the children.
My family will not pamper them just because they are their elders and relatives separated by several generations.
In this matter, my family is just the opposite. They have never been vague about their education. Perhaps they are not as strict with their father as before.
However, I will guide them on any matter, because I am afraid that they will not know the right or wrong of the matter, or will not realize the seriousness of the matter, but no matter what they do, it will be good for them.
Also, even though the children are still young, they actually know and understand everything.
It's just that sometimes they are too lazy to communicate with you, and sometimes they choose to ignore you directly. In this case, you will know that there must be something wrong with them.
Either you didn't offend them unintentionally, or they want something?
But when encountering this kind of situation, they will look at who can deal with the other person first and be patient. How can children like them be better than adults.
Another thing is that no matter what happens at home, no matter whether it is a big or small matter, they are always told in front of the children.
Even though they are young, only three or five years old, they are very smart and will remember whatever is said in front of them.
When I encounter something I don’t understand, I will ask directly, why?
When it comes to bringing them around to educate them, another person will also tell them in advance that what adults say at home cannot be said outside.
But they also ask if they can tell their parents.
Of course, that’s nothing?Besides, if you really need to avoid what they say, you will say it after they go to bed or when they are at school. How do they know this?
However, as for what Big Brother and the others said just now, it won’t take long for others to know.
Without even thinking about it, I knew it was these children who said it.
But if you know it, you will know it. It is not a big deal. Instead, you can use the children's messages to see other people's reactions to it.
Especially Xiao Shi, I wonder what he will think after learning what his two uncles said about him.
You know, family members rarely praise them in front of them, but more often make demands on them.
After all, as a father, there are some things that I am embarrassed to say directly to my children.
This can also play a role in communication, and there is nothing wrong with it. On the contrary, it feels good. It is better than not letting them know all the time.
Also, in our country, neither men nor women deliberately express their emotions to their children or even their parents.
Is this why?The key to many problems between fathers and sons, and mothers and sons.
Fortunately, there are still children at home, and they can act as a bridge in the middle, which actually feels good.
"Mianmian, put it somewhere! I'll wash it later."
"No need, sister-in-law, have your parents eaten?"
"After eating, when I came, Mingcheng had just returned, and I saw that Nannan's face was not very good.
Plus there were people coming and going in the hospital, so no one dared to say anything more?
I just came back. Do you think their mother and son will quarrel over that girl from the Jing family? "
"It shouldn't be the case! If it's like what you said, sister-in-law, I'm afraid the matter will be serious."
"I was worried about this, so I hurriedly came back to discuss it with you.
You said it's for a girl, what about Mingcheng?This is how long I have known that girl, and I can do whatever it takes. "
"Sister-in-law, let's not worry about it for now. We haven't figured out the situation yet, so don't talk or ask.
What if it’s not a quarrel, but just because the person you’re with elsewhere isn’t that good?
Sister Nan feels uncomfortable, is it okay to say a few more words?
On the contrary, it would be bad if the conflict between mother and son escalates because we ask too much. "
"Yes, I hope it's like what you said."
"I hope so too. By the way, my sister-in-law has left some food for you. You should go and eat first!"
"Okay, just put the things in the sink! Wait for me to finish eating and clean them up later."
"It's okay. I've almost finished cleaning it up. I just need to cut some more fruit."
"Okay then! I'll go eat first."
"it is good."
There will definitely be conflicts between mother and son, but I just don't know the extent of Mingcheng's feelings for Jing Qianqian.
If there is really no way to change it, then you can only accept it.
But no matter where they got to, it didn't matter.
And the most important thing is that it's easy to coax at this time, even though they can be difficult sometimes, but fortunately everyone has a way?
After all, there is still an age gap between adults and children, and dealing with them is not a piece of cake.
Although it is really difficult to take care of children nowadays, in any case, for these children in the family, it is better than the children of other families.
And because the elders in the family, even if they make mistakes, sometimes criticize them, they will accept it humbly instead of rolling around on the ground.
In this regard, they are better than the children next door. The family has never accommodated them excessively just because they are only children.
On the contrary, everyone will correct them in time when they find that they have bad habits or problems.
Just like I said just now, why dads sometimes have a straight face is not because they made mistakes. As long as they don't make mistakes, it won't be the same.
But sometimes, they also feel that there are many elders in the family and they are all their relatives, so they will play rogue and try to avoid punishment. However, it often doesn't work at this time. On the contrary, punishing them will be heavier than admitting their mistakes in time.
It also led them to know that their elders are their elders. No matter how good they are at ordinary times, after they make mistakes, everyone will be the same and will not stand up for them.
As for leaving the children directly to the aunt at home, this is impossible. Unless there is something special at home, just like yesterday, they will be handed over to the aunt.
Basically, there will be elders at home playing with them. Even if the old man or the old lady cannot keep up with their physical strength, they will still be there to accompany them.
Instead of leaving them completely to the aunt.After all, no matter how hard the aunt works, it is not as good as having relatives around her.
What's more, the aunt is worried that they will bump into each other and be scolded by the master.
But I don’t know how to do it. When they first learned to crawl, bumping into them was a common thing. As long as they didn’t attack them artificially, anything was fine.
A child!They have to be beaten and beaten since childhood to grow up. It is impossible to care for them like flowers in a flower house.
That's not love, that's harming them, let alone the education of the children.
My family will not pamper them just because they are their elders and relatives separated by several generations.
In this matter, my family is just the opposite. They have never been vague about their education. Perhaps they are not as strict with their father as before.
However, I will guide them on any matter, because I am afraid that they will not know the right or wrong of the matter, or will not realize the seriousness of the matter, but no matter what they do, it will be good for them.
Also, even though the children are still young, they actually know and understand everything.
It's just that sometimes they are too lazy to communicate with you, and sometimes they choose to ignore you directly. In this case, you will know that there must be something wrong with them.
Either you didn't offend them unintentionally, or they want something?
But when encountering this kind of situation, they will look at who can deal with the other person first and be patient. How can children like them be better than adults.
Another thing is that no matter what happens at home, no matter whether it is a big or small matter, they are always told in front of the children.
Even though they are young, only three or five years old, they are very smart and will remember whatever is said in front of them.
When I encounter something I don’t understand, I will ask directly, why?
When it comes to bringing them around to educate them, another person will also tell them in advance that what adults say at home cannot be said outside.
But they also ask if they can tell their parents.
Of course, that’s nothing?Besides, if you really need to avoid what they say, you will say it after they go to bed or when they are at school. How do they know this?
However, as for what Big Brother and the others said just now, it won’t take long for others to know.
Without even thinking about it, I knew it was these children who said it.
But if you know it, you will know it. It is not a big deal. Instead, you can use the children's messages to see other people's reactions to it.
Especially Xiao Shi, I wonder what he will think after learning what his two uncles said about him.
You know, family members rarely praise them in front of them, but more often make demands on them.
After all, as a father, there are some things that I am embarrassed to say directly to my children.
This can also play a role in communication, and there is nothing wrong with it. On the contrary, it feels good. It is better than not letting them know all the time.
Also, in our country, neither men nor women deliberately express their emotions to their children or even their parents.
Is this why?The key to many problems between fathers and sons, and mothers and sons.
Fortunately, there are still children at home, and they can act as a bridge in the middle, which actually feels good.
"Mianmian, put it somewhere! I'll wash it later."
"No need, sister-in-law, have your parents eaten?"
"After eating, when I came, Mingcheng had just returned, and I saw that Nannan's face was not very good.
Plus there were people coming and going in the hospital, so no one dared to say anything more?
I just came back. Do you think their mother and son will quarrel over that girl from the Jing family? "
"It shouldn't be the case! If it's like what you said, sister-in-law, I'm afraid the matter will be serious."
"I was worried about this, so I hurriedly came back to discuss it with you.
You said it's for a girl, what about Mingcheng?This is how long I have known that girl, and I can do whatever it takes. "
"Sister-in-law, let's not worry about it for now. We haven't figured out the situation yet, so don't talk or ask.
What if it’s not a quarrel, but just because the person you’re with elsewhere isn’t that good?
Sister Nan feels uncomfortable, is it okay to say a few more words?
On the contrary, it would be bad if the conflict between mother and son escalates because we ask too much. "
"Yes, I hope it's like what you said."
"I hope so too. By the way, my sister-in-law has left some food for you. You should go and eat first!"
"Okay, just put the things in the sink! Wait for me to finish eating and clean them up later."
"It's okay. I've almost finished cleaning it up. I just need to cut some more fruit."
"Okay then! I'll go eat first."
"it is good."
There will definitely be conflicts between mother and son, but I just don't know the extent of Mingcheng's feelings for Jing Qianqian.
If there is really no way to change it, then you can only accept it.
But no matter where they got to, it didn't matter.
