Chapter 155 The problem of children

On Monday morning, Han Mingxiu rode a car to the county seat to pick up her clothes. It was only after nine o'clock when they arrived at the county seat. At this time, Auntie Gao and Uncle Gao must be sweeping the streets. Miss there.

It was work time at the moment, and the second sister was alone at home. She was very happy to see Han Mingxiu coming. She was almost suffocated at home all day long, and a dear sister could come with her. Talking and chatting, I couldn't be happier.

Xiu, come, eat some crabapples. Your second brother-in-law went to the orchard for me to pick them, but they're crispy.

Han Mingyu pointed to a pot of burnt green crabapple fruit placed on the coffee table for Han Mingxiu to eat.

Han Mingxiu looked at the green crabapple fruit, and pantothenic acid burst into her mouth.

Although this green fruit is crunchy, it is not sweet at all. It is more sour and sour. Before she can eat it, she feels sour water coming out of her mouth. She really can't eat this kind of thing.

However, Han Mingyu thought it was delicious, so he picked up the crabapple and took a sip, eating it, as if he couldn't feel how sour the fruit was.

Seeing that the second sister can eat sour so much, Han Mingxiu thought to herself, saying that the second sister likes to eat sour so much, and this child is probably a kid.

Although Han Mingxiu did not have the idea of ​​valuing sons over daughters, but for the sake of her second sister, she still hoped that this child would have a son.

In this era, there are very few people who do not value sons over daughters. The second sister has a soft temperament and lives with her in-laws. If this child can have a son, her in-laws will definitely give her a high look. For this, she hopes very much. The second sister can give birth to a son.

It's just that she just thought about it in her heart, and didn't say it out of her mouth, for fear of adding to the second sister's mental burden.

Second sister, who will serve when the child is born?

Han Mingyu was about to give birth in more than a month. Looking at her big belly, Han Mingxiu couldn't help but think about the problem of serving her confinement.

Han Mingyu said, Of course my old woman will serve the confinement child, but I will take care of the child after the confinement is born. My husband and old woman told me that when the child is born, I will not be asked to go to work. Anyway, there is no shortage of me at home. If you earn ten yuan or eight yuan, ask me to take care of the children at home and give birth to a few more children while they are young.

When Han Mingxiu heard the Lin family's plan, he frowned and said, What about you? Do you think so too?

Han Mingyu nodded and said, I can do whatever I want, whether I go to work or coax my children at home.

Seeing the second sister's attitude, Han Mingxiu sighed softly and said, Second sister, I don't want to interfere with your family's decision, but I still want to give you a piece of advice. I think we women must be financially independent, even if You only earn ten yuan and eight yuan a month, which is also a symbol of your independence, and it is the confidence that you and your in-laws can be on an equal footing. Second sister, don't depend on others financially, and don't put your chin on For other people’s meals, we must maintain an independent spirit at all times, so as not to be bullied and despised by others.”

In her previous life, she had seen too many silly women who sacrificed themselves for the family. They also thought the same as the second sister now. They felt that there was someone in the family who made money, and there was no shortage of her earnings, so they simply resigned to take care of the family and children at home.

This idea was good in the first place, but it didn't end well in the end.

Once a woman loses her job, she manages the family as her own, and is detained in the small circle of the family for a long time, it will gradually become boring, and she will distance herself from her husband in terms of thinking and knowledge. And once the distance arises, family conflicts will follow.

Moreover, if you don't work for a long time, you can't make money at home. Slowly, a man will develop an unbalanced heart, and he will feel that you owe him, and that he has worked hard to support you.

Therefore, he will have a sense of superiority in front of you that you owe me, and the state of equality and mutual respect between you will gradually break down with his unbalanced heart, and he will try his best in life. Come and find your balance until you are low in the dust in his presence.

What's more, some men ruthlessly abandon their wives after they succeed, because they have grown distant from the scumbag wife, and the wife's knowledge and experience can no longer agree with him, and live with such a wife. He is not happy...

All kinds of terrifying endings are not something that a person with a fragile heart like the second sister can bear.

Although the second brother-in-law is kind-hearted and deeply in love with her second sister, no matter how deep the love is, it cannot stand the uncontrolled consumption and the corrosion of the years.

She doesn't want her second sister to follow in the footsteps of those women, and she doesn't want her to become that kind of mediocre housewife in the future, so she wants her to become better, and continue to be better, so that anyone in her in-law's family can It is impossible to despise her, so that she will always have the confidence to be on an equal footing with them.

And the way to make her excellent is to let her not sacrifice herself for the family, let her go out to work, let her have the opportunity to grow and enrich herself, and not be confined to the narrow circle of the family.

Of course, this is just her wishful thinking. Whether it can be realized or not depends on the second sister herself.

Hearing the girl's sincere advice, Han Mingyu also became serious, she said helplessly, Xiu, I understand what you mean, in fact, I don't want Houhouer to watch the children at home, how can I not want to go to work when I am so young? But there is no way, look, there are only a few people in the family, there must be one person to stay at home to take care of the children, they are all regular workers, and I am a temporary worker, you say who will come back if I don’t come back?”

Han Mingxiu said, Then can't you find a babysitter or send the child to the nursery? Do you have to imprison yourself at home?

Han Mingyu said, Where are you going to find that nanny who knows the truth? You don't know, I heard that some nanny are wicked. My child, I can't tell you how pitiful it is, I just thought, if my child is abused without my knowledge, I will definitely feel distressed, so it is absolutely impossible to find a nanny.

Nursery is even more unreliable. Think about it, can a teacher watch a large group of children who can't eat, drink, and laugh? Besides, no matter how hard the teacher is, he can't make himself watch carefully? And children Too young is easy to get sick, and if one of the children in the first class is ill, it will definitely be infected, and I can't bear to bear that sin.

Han Mingyu said it very truthfully, and Han Mingxiu couldn't refute it. While his own life is important, so is the child's childhood.

In her last life, it was not that she had never heard of child abuse by nanny, and that kindergarten teachers sometimes beat children. The second sister was right to think so. She just hoped that she would not lose herself in the process of taking care of the children and the family.